Why We Wait Too Long to Get Help — And Why You Don’t Have To

Many people live with mental health challenges for years before reaching out for support. In fact, research shows that on average, Australians wait more than a decade before seeking professional help.

If you’ve ever thought, “It’s not bad enough yet,” or “I should be able to handle this myself,” you’re not alone. But the truth is, you don’t need to wait until things reach breaking point.

Why We Delay Getting Help

There are many reasons people put off seeking support, including:

  • Stigma: Worrying about what others might think

  • Self-judgement: Believing you “should” be able to cope on your own

  • Uncertainty: Not knowing where to start or who to turn to

  • Minimising: Telling yourself “it’s not that bad” compared to what others go through

While these thoughts are common, they often keep us stuck in cycles of stress, anxiety, or sadness far longer than we need to be.

The Cost of Waiting

Delaying support can mean that struggles build up silently over time. What starts as manageable stress can gradually turn into overwhelming anxiety, burnout, or depression. The longer we wait, the heavier it often feels.

Seeking help earlier can prevent small challenges from becoming big ones. It’s a way of protecting your wellbeing, just as you would see a doctor for a health concern before it worsens.

The Benefits of Reaching Out Early

Getting support sooner can:

  • Provide coping tools before things escalate

  • Reduce feelings of isolation and self-blame

  • Improve sleep, energy, and overall resilience

  • Make it easier to rebuild confidence and balance

The earlier you reach out, the sooner you can feel lighter, calmer, and more connected to yourself and others.

Small Steps You Can Take

Reaching out doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. You could:

#1 Talk with a trusted friend or family member

#2 Book a session with a counsellor

#3 Speak with your GP about how you’ve been feeling

#4 Explore relaxation, grounding, or mindfulness practices

Each small step is a sign of strength, not weakness.

You Don’t Have to Wait

You don’t need to be “at rock bottom” before asking for support. In fact, the earlier you seek help, the easier it can be to find your way forward.

If you’ve been wondering whether to reach out, consider this your sign that it might be time.

Counselling offers a safe, supportive space to share what’s on your mind and discover strategies that work for you. If you’d like to take that step, I’d be glad to walk alongside you.