Recognising the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse can be difficult to identify because it often unfolds in subtle, confusing ways. Unlike physical abuse, it tends to leave invisible wounds—erosion of self-esteem, self-doubt, and a constant questioning of reality. Many people in these situations feel torn between loyalty and unease, wondering if they’re “overreacting” or imagining the problem. The truth is, abuse doesn’t always look like what we expect.
How Narcissistic Abuse Shows Up
Narcissistic behaviours can appear in relationships, workplaces, or even within families. Some common tactics include:
Gaslighting – making you question your memory, feelings, or perception of events. Over time, this can cause deep self-doubt.
Manipulation – using guilt, charm, or pressure to control your decisions and actions.
Emotional neglect – withholding affection, ignoring needs, or making you feel invisible or unworthy.
These patterns create confusion, leaving you second-guessing yourself instead of recognising the behaviour as harmful.
While each situation is unique, certain warning signs often appear:
Consistently feeling drained or “not good enough” after interactions.
Walking on eggshells to avoid conflict or criticism.
Being blamed for problems you didn’t create.
Having your achievements dismissed or overshadowed.
Feeling isolated, as though your support system has been eroded.
These red flags can appear in romantic relationships, friendships, workplaces, or family dynamics. Recognising them is the first step toward breaking free of unhealthy patterns.
Red Flags to Look Out For
One of the most powerful tools you have is your intuition. If something feels “off” or you notice a repeating pattern that leaves you diminished rather than supported, it’s important to pay attention. Trusting your instincts doesn’t mean making big decisions right away—it simply means honouring your own feelings as valid and worthy of reflection.
Trusting Your Instincts
Awareness is the beginning of healing. By naming the behaviours and recognising the patterns, you take back some of the power that may have been chipped away over time. You are not imagining it, and you are not alone.
If you’re beginning to see these signs in your life, I can help. I provide a safe and supportive space to process your experiences, rebuild self-worth, and move forward with clarity.